You"ve Been Dumped - Why it is Critical That You Meet With Your Ex Right Now

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Chances are, most of the advice you have read about suggests cutting off contact with your ex after getting dumped.
This is very true and something that will help you to get your relationship back down the road.
It will prevent you from making some of the classic mistakes most of us do, such as harassing them with phone calls and text messages.
Anything that will prevent you from acting in such a desperate manner is bound to be a good thing.
However, the last thing you want to do is simply disappear without a trace.
If you do this, your ex may assume that you had a breakdown, or you were simply too distraught to handle things.
They will assume that you love them so much that you simply fell apart.
That is not what you want because it will give your former partner unlimited power over you.
Therefore, it is always a good idea to contact your ex right after the breakup to get a few things out in the open.
And no, we are not talking about begging them to come back or trying to make some deal.
Instead, the meeting should be short and you should avoid showing any emotion.
You should simply tell them that you accept the breakup, there are no hard feelings, and that you wish them the best.
Keep it short and business like (no more than a few minutes).
You are going to let your ex know, in no uncertain terms, that you are not going to let the breakup bring down the rest of your life.
You are going to show them that you are okay and that they needn't worry about your mental state.
It is going to show them character, confidence and maturity - something they may not have seen from you before.
The end result of all this is that you are going to deny them the privilege of seeing your life reduced to a shambles.
You are keeping some of that power and taking the wind out of their sails by standing your ground and letting them know that your life is not going to end because they are no longer around.
This is going to give you some power to negotiate in the future.
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